In one of Kat Blaque’s videos – I’m not sure which one; I’ll have to find it later – she talks about how she wishes cis people wouldn’t constantly walk around trans people on eggshells all the time. She seems to think that “cisgender” people just assume that trans people are these wounded, fragile beings who just fall apart at the slightest thing…

….but what she has to remember is that “cis” people are walking through a world wherein trans people and their allies ARE that fragile. They DO become incensed and offended and angry and belligerent and even dangerous at the drop of a hat. Say the wrong thing, use the wrong pronoun, say “you guys” to a roomful of people of every conceivable gender, and they absolutely lose their minds. They are NOT mentally stable. They are NOT emotionally stable. These are the people who do things like get Meghan Murphy and Posie Parker permanently banned from Twitter – or cost Maya Forstater her job. They are social terrorists. They are absolute raging bullies, and sometimes I wonder how they have managed to NOT go to jail for assaulting people who simply say things or believe things that disagree with them or their viewpoints.

THIS IS WHY “cisgender” people walk on eggshells around trans people and treat them like they are unstable, mentally ill people – too many of them act like it, and there’s no telling if the one standing in front of you right here, right now is one of those people. It’s not something that can be discerned simply by looking at someone. Any interaction with any of them could result in your life being turned completely upside down because you said something they found offensive so they have to destroy you as a result. They have bullied cis people to this point, and they refuse to take responsibility for this. This mirrors the worst of abusive relationships (kind of like the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard situation, where one party claims “you abused me” but the reality is completely the opposite – the party claiming to be the victim is actually the abuser).

Own up to it, Kat. This is what your people do. Your trans peers and your allies. It’s better if “cis” people just don’t interact with trans people at all, if possible. It’s also better if their allies are avoided too, but if someone is a “cis” ally, it’s harder to tell who they are if you’re just in an office with them, at the grocery store, in line at the bank, etc. But once one knows who they are, it’s better if one doesn’t speak to them at all, or interact with them in any way if it can be avoided. That way there’s no risk of them becoming offended at some horrible statement like “you guys” and ripping one a new arsehole. Your people have trivialized the entire concept of “triggered” into complete uselessness – and I say that as a person who has experienced abuse and who knows what being triggered really is, but I don’t weaponize it like you people do. The abuse I suffered at the hands of my alcoholic mother & stepfather is for me to deal with – not the rest of the world. It is inappropriate for me to make that experience the problem of everyone else out there, and this is opposite of what the trans people do as well as trans allies.

Just wanted to put that out there. It’s a very real problem that needs addressing. If you want to be treated like a normal adult in the world, then act like one.